I discovered my ‘friend’ alone in the bathroom with my 6-year-old

A few months ago, I asked my father -in -law of my children while I worked.

I would only have done a few hours of work when I got this unpleasant feeling and wanted to get my kids. I don’t know if you would call her mother’s instinct or what, but I just felt like I had to collect them.

When I entered my Mil’s house and asked where my six -year -old daughter was, she responded by chance, “She’s in the bathroom with *Amanda. They swim in the pool all morning.”

“I felt sick in the stomach”

At first, when the mil said they were in the bathroom, I was not bored because I assumed that they would still have their swimming clothes. In fact, when I went into the bathroom, I didn’t even knock.

As I opened the door, the family friend, who is in her 40s, was standing there with a towel wrapped around her naked body. My daughter, meanwhile, was still in the shower without clothes.

I was amazed immediately. Literally, in essence, surprised.

“What are you doing?” I finally stuck.

“Oh, we just got out of the pool and so we jumped in the shower,” Amanda replied.

I stayed there frozen looking at her, then down my daughter. I felt sick in my stomach.

“Come, heart, time to jump out,” I told my daughter and quickly wrapped her in a towel.

I was so angry and upset, my hands were trembling as I helped them put on her clothes. My little girl looked completely good and was unaware of how I was feeling.

“I would never do a million years this”

After we left, I told my husband about it. He said the friend’s behavior was “a little away”, but he thought I was reacting a lot.

But the more I thought about it, the more angry I became.

I would never ever enter a million years in the shower with someone else’s baby. Nor my nieces.

I asked my two best friends their opinion and they both said the behavior was completely unacceptable.

The fact that this family friend, who I also appreciated as a friend, thought it was good to shower with a naked child, honestly blows my mind.

I don’t think it is a pedophile for a second, but it is still inappropriate and wrong. Too very popular, very intimate.

After the incident, I spoke to my daughter and gently asked what had happened. She said they would just be thrown into the shower to rinse after a swim.

I explained to her that her body is her that she has the right to intimacy, and that no one should shower with her. Full filthy stop. We also talked more about personal boundaries, and about your intestinal confidence if something feels out.

I’ve only seen that family friend once since and it’s very difficult between us. I know that if I appreciate her friendship, I would have to lower it and explain some basic boundaries.

But the fact that I have to show that I really do not know it at all.

* Names have been changed for reasons of intimacy.