The rule-breaking grandma finally goes too far

Another day, another tale of a grandmother who defied instructions and took the opportunity to mess around when she was alone with her grandson.

And, of course, she’s unrepentant at all, despite the chaos she’s caused.

“She gave my child his first haircut”

A poor mother learned the dangers the hard way recently when she left her mother with her daughter and was brutally betrayed.

“Trying to figure out how to handle this without yelling,” she begins her post asking for advice.

“My mother watches my toddler (20 months old) for a few days at a time, twice a month. She stays with us because she lives a few hours away.”

“So far it’s been mostly OK. It’s hard to have a guest in the house, and she tends to help ‘too much’ (putting things in the wrong place, etc).

This sounds typical, if somewhat annoying.

But one day, the mother comes home from work to find that the grandmother has finally gone too far.

“What. To. #@%$,” she writes.

“I come home and she had given my daughter her first haircut.”

“No discussion, no permission. It sounds good, and we could have said yes if she had asked, and my husband and I had talked about it.”

“Now, instead of a cool milestone, I’m bored beyond belief.”

After discussing things with her husband, the mother concludes:

“One: she gave it to my daughter [a fringe]but I wanted her to grow up. It was so close behind her ear, and now we’re dealing with months of extra hair in her eyes.”

“And two – it makes us question her decision making skills and what else she can do without asking.”

“Acting like your child is hers”

The comments section was full of empathetic readers.

“As a parent herself, she knows how important this is. She’s acting like your child is her child and she can do whatever she wants.”

“I’m glad it looks okay and I agree it will grow back, but that’s not the point. She had no right to understand her role. I would be absolutely furious too.”

This mom agreed, adding: “If she was really good, it means she wouldn’t have waited until she was alone with the baby to get the haircut.”

Then a grandmother offered to deal with what went down: “I have wanted to cut my granddaughters hair for a long time, especially the youngest, her hair is of different lengths and she can it looked so much cuter.”

“But no matter how tempted I am, I know it’s not my place. We joke with him and I say I just don’t know how much longer I can take. But she just laughs and changes the subject, which is my key to attraction.”

“It’s not up to me. Not without permission.”

“For free childcare, I’d let her go”

There were some commentators who were pragmatic about the incident.

“For someone who offers free childcare that takes them away from home for hours, days at a time, I’d let her go,” wrote one.

This reader agreed, adding, “It’s okay that she didn’t ask, but I suspect she was being mean and frankly it doesn’t really matter for two reasons: the first experience of cutting children’s hair in a salon chair is the current milestone. and chances are in 30 years you won’t even remember.”

The mom eventually responded to the comments: “I vented here so I could try to be more sane in person… We had a conversation about boundaries and the deeper issue beyond hair. We’ll see how things go going forward.”

yes. Time will tell.